Pheww that's a lot of feedback. Thanks for the replies, very helpful. Will have to set aside some time for any other questions, but I think the overall gist is what I was looking for. And confirms what the contractor who I had in said.

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Find books and read them. I've taken notice of some of the stuff you read. You can do this.
Yea, at this point my main limitation is motivation, not ability. I don't have a lot of experience with hands on work, but I could at least take more ownership in getting things right when I hire, and on small jobs. And up until lately I didn't quite have the motivation or confidence, but I'm recognizing that our home is a major asset so I should take it more seriously than I have.